The Basics

mbonilla — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 19:48:56 +0000

I know you are searching for a new way to be in your life. That is what has led you here to my web page. We are the first generation of which so much is being asked. Husband and wife work full time, have children far away from a support system. Or we are single and having to do all of it, retirement, money, housing, daily routine of groceries by ourselves. Some of us travel more days than we want to, to earn our living and impress our company. We are flooded by adds, email, TV, non-stop phones and information on what we need to buy, what we need to look good, desirable. No wonder so many of us is miserable, and tired to the core.

Look around on your next plane ride, no matter the time of day, 80% are asleep in minutes, that is how sleep deprived we are. Ok so enough of the problem, what is the solution?

I have the experience through 22 years in private practice that one pill; one magic thing you buy on the Internet will not fix your life. It is a matter of self-love. First and foremost self love, then boundaries and deciding what is truly important in your life. Live with that in your mind at all times (helps keep the distractions at bay, oh, those dreaded distractions!!!).

Basics:

Healthy Food - with healthy food, which for the body is fuel, pure and simple, your ability to think, work and make good decisions that are life giving are easier. Then good rest, that means relaxation time as well as good sleep. That said, most of us don’t sleep that well…..because we worry, we are busy with our minds running, stay up too late or drink alcohol at night.

Good Sleep – good sleep routines are the most important to a good night’s rest. Going to bed at the same time each night like a child will help us to regain the sleep of a child. The body learns to anticipate your next move and wind itself down at night. Restful music, no TV really helps. Once you become more rested and eating good fuel, then life gets much easier.

Electronic Interference

mbonilla — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 19:45:06 +0000

We are drowning in electronic information and email. The more we are exposed to, the more we think we are supposed to process and accept. It is overwhelming our senses and sensibilities. It interferes with our relationships with our families and our partners. In the dialogues I have with clients, one of the main conflicts marriages are now facing is Facebook. I remind my clients , it is a social media tool that was designed by a disgruntled person in college . It is important to set limits and boundaries around such nonsense in our lives. It can be a fun distraction from the day and can become an addiction that keeps us in a fantasy world that is not our present life .

Living in the now is the best life. It allows us to flourish in our awareness, letting go of the past and releasing resentments that we harbor. Though I have found fun in facebooking with old high school friends, it is not really a big part of my current life. It is a nostalgic resting place to be used sparingly, like reading a favorite book.

I do love the ability to use electronic media to speak with you, and I use it consciously and conscientiously, realizing that it needs boundaries so that I may live my life now in the present. It is truly the only time we have, the past is done no matter how we feel about it and the future is still being formed in our choices that we make in the present.

Eternal Springs Wellness Center

The Basics

Electronic Interference